How to work on relationships

Relationships are everywhere. Humans are wired to connect, and the people you have around you will have a deep impact in your life. Friends, family, and intimate partners can push your buttons like no one else, and cause all sorts of emotions in you. It’s in these relationships that you learn the basics about who you are to the world, and what you can expect from others around you.

Whichever type of relationship you’re hoping to explore, I like to approach it in similar ways. To me, it’s all about asking the right questions: what do you feel, when you’re connecting? What are your automatic thoughts? What do you think it all means? How much of your authenticity are you sacrificing to maintain your relationships?

We can answer these questions in many ways. Some of my favourites have to do with expanding your awareness to include different aspects of your inner world. What do your thoughts, feelings, and body tell you about your relationships? We can use conversations, experiments, and use the therapeutic relationship itself to learn. To create change, we may re-organize your perception, offer alternative interpretations thanks to your adult brain, and find new skills and meanings.

In working to help you have a healthier relationship with yourself and your world, I will try to use myself, my training, and my experience to help you explore, understand, and change your relationships. We get to practice new ways of being in the world in session, which then you can take out into your life.