How to create change without shaming yourself
July 05, 2021 | Anxiety, General, Therapeutic Process
When we’re interested in personal growth, we recognize that there are things about ourselves we want to change or improve: it could be traits, behaviours, attitudes, or mindsets we hold. However, sometimes, the way we approach this is by beating ourselves up for being who we are today. In the video below, I talk about…
Learning to trust again after pain
May 29, 2020 | Anxiety, Connection, General, Society
When I work on the issue of trust with my clients, I like to tell them that we all need to trust each other. We need to trust that the driver next to us knows what they’re doing, we need to trust the grocery store will be stocked with what we need, we need to…
The Window of Tolerance
November 11, 2019 | Anxiety, Awareness, General
My last two posts have been about anxiety and how we begin to work with it. In the latter, I mention that I think of self-regulation as hijacking what is happening to our brains to help us come back to a place of calmness. Add to this returning to curiosity, and capacity to manage what is…
How to chill: Grounding Skills
November 08, 2019 | Anxiety, Awareness, Body
In my previous post, I talked about anxiety. In there I said that, before we can change what causes anxiety, we need to tell our bodies that we’re safe enough now. This is what I call self-regulation or, as the title suggests, chilling. I heard once that anxiety is all about the future: what if?…
What is Anxiety?
November 04, 2019 | Anxiety, General
Anxiety is the sum of the sensations, feelings, and thoughts you experience when you detect a threat. In response to that threat, you start preparing to face the danger in the best way you can: you try to figure out if there’s anything you can do to prevent the threat and, if not, you try…